Today’s topic is about that voice in your head that endlessly evaluates everything, talks you into doing things you should not, and convinces you not to do things you should.
This voice tells you that if you leave your toxic job you will lose everything you worked so hard to attain and that spending your hard-earned money on a hobby or a well-deserved massage is reckless and likely the first step toward becoming homeless.
Unless properly managed, this voice will strive to take you to the mat at every turn. This inner bantering is not only irrational, it is psychotic! It keeps you in a constant state of fear, ensuring that you remain ever on the alert for any and everything that can possibly go wrong. I mean seriously, if you had a companion who spoke to you that way, you would kick them to the curb for continually scaring you to death!
The good news is that you can change this inner dialogue to one that is focused on positive outcomes and possibilities, giving you the ability to make healthier decisions and, yes, experience total peace of mind. That’s right, you can experience a deep sense of inner peace! It takes time and effort, but it is definitely within your reach.
In order to do so, it is helpful to understand that this voice comes from your subconscious mind. It is ultimately trying to protect you from harm, but it is misguided and can ultimately cause more harm than good when its programming is fear based.
This programming comes from many sources going all the way back to childhood, possibly even from the time you were in the womb receiving subtle messages from your mother’s thoughts, feelings, and state of mind. Once born, it was learned from your parents, grandparents, and other family members. Later, it was influenced by television, teachers, peers, and by now, a lifetime of experiences.
Of course, not all of the programming is negative or fear based, but our reactions to the fear-based programming are much stronger and can be so subtle you just get a feeling rather than a thought in the form of words or sentences.
For example, if you work in a corporate environment, there are unspoken expectations around the dress code, political affiliations, sexual preferences, sports team and college affiliations, even which channel you select for your source of news. You may not consciously be aware of every expectation but you sense it and monitor and adjust your behaviors accordingly, even if that’s not the way you would behave if left to your own devices. Why? You are avoiding anticipated discomfort or pain (from disapproving peers to job loss). This is your subconscious mind in action!
As you might expect, changing the tendency to be on constant alert is no small undertaking. And the number of methods for retraining the subconscious is unlimited. I will dive into some of these methods in later posts, but here’s are a few methods I am familiar with:
· Practicing mindfulness in every moment
· Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
· Positive affirmations
· Energy healing techniques (i.e., Reiki)
· Breathing exercises
There are also some excellent books out there to help you get started:
· The Untethered Soul
· The Power of Now
· Your Sacred Self (or anything by Wayne Dyer)
· The Four Agreements
· A Return to Love (or anything by Marianne Williamson)
YouTube is also a terrific source of information on this topic. Here are some video links:
· Spirit Science video series
· Louise Hay
I sincerely hope you found today’s topic interesting and worthy of further exploration. Your efforts to shift your inner conversation to a more positive and self-empowering dialogue will pay off in ways you could never imagine. I hope you take that leap!
Yours in health, well being, and inner peace,